Dial Back to Connect: Bridging the Emotional Gap in a Digitally Disconnected World

Dr. Joseph Sunny Kunnacherry-Honourary Secretary of All India Occupational Therapist Association (AIOTA) and Founder of Prayatna, Kochi.

The very devices meant to simplify our lives often steal away the moments that matter the most. According to a new study ‘Impact of Smartphones on Parent-Child Relationships’, use of mobile phones creates growing emotional distances, especially between parents and children.

For many parents, smartphones have become an all-in-one tool—a source of work, news, entertainment, and a digital escape from stress. However, when parents spend hours scrolling through social media or binge-watching videos, the unintended consequence is a subtle disconnect from their children. Interestingly, children do notice where their parents’ attention drifts. For kids, excessive smartphone usage by parents isn’t just a habit—it’s a source of frustration and conflict.

Real Moments vs. Screen Time

Time spent staring at screens during family dinners, vacations, or casual outings robs everyone of shared experiences that build trust and bonding. The essence of connection comes from eye contact, conversations, and laughter—none of which can happen when a phone is in hand.

Interestingly, children believe their parents’ phones should be tools for connection, not distraction. They value simple features like calling, messaging, and capturing memories over endless entertainment apps or games.

Practical Tips for Parents: Reclaim Family Time

Breaking free from purposeless smartphone use doesn’t mean abandoning your device entirely—it’s about setting boundaries and rediscovering balance. Here are a few actionable tips:

1. Make spaces like the dining table, living room, or bedrooms “phone-free.” During meals or family gatherings, place phones in a basket or another room to encourage undivided attention.

2. Dedicate specific hours of the day for family activities without phones. Whether it’s playing a board game, cooking together, or sharing stories, these moments foster real connection.

3. Use tools like app timers, notification blockers, or screen-time limits to curb excessive phone use.

4. Replace mindless scrolling with intentional conversations. Ask your child about their day, dreams, or thoughts.

5. Use smartphones to strengthen relationships instead of straining them. Take photos, make calls, and celebrate moments, but don’t let the device distract you from living those experiences.

Rediscover the Joy of Being Present

The beauty of parenting lies in small moments. Smartphones can’t replicate these experiences, but they often steal them away.

By curbing excessive smartphone habits, parents can offer their children what they truly seek: their time, attention, and presence. The reward? Stronger bonds, fewer conflicts, and a family that feels connected not just digitally, but emotionally.

It’s time to put the phone down and look up. By being mindful of our smartphone habits, we can build stronger, more meaningful connections with the ones who matter most. After all, childhood doesn’t come with a rewind button—but it does come with moments worth cherishing.